Do you recognise the signs of an unhealthy relationship?
How to take this quiz: We don’t want to store any information about you, so get some note taking tools handy. This could be pen and paper or digital note taking tools. Note down a score for each question below. The more points you get, the more worrying and extreme the behaviour you have seen could be. Keep in mind that what might be healthy for one couple, could be completely unhealthy for another.
When you are ready, begin by answering the following questions:::
(eg. things like forcing you to order a certain dish in a restaurant, change your outfit, perform a sexual act you might not be comfortable with.)
0 - No, they never try to influence me.
1 - They help me expand upon myself and develop.
2 - They usually give me advice on what they’d do.
3 - They often tell me what to do or how to act.
4 - I usually do as they please. It is easier than arguing or trying to disagree.
0 - No, we can be completely independent.
1 - We check in a couple times a day.
2 - I like them being there most of the time.
3 - Sometimes I need them to function.
4 - I need them to be there to function all the time.
0 - No, never.
1 - To protect me.
2 - I get the feeling they might.
3 - Yes they have sometimes.
4 - They regularly lie and bend the truth.
0 - No, never.
1 - They’ve said stuff in the past, but have moved on.
2 - They sometimes get upset or mad if I am feeling a certain way.
3 - I feel like I have to hide my emotions to avoid upsetting them.
4 - Yes, any emotion is turned into a weapon.
0 - No, never.
1 - They hint at it.
2 - Sometimes they won’t accept that they or others might be at fault.
3 - I can get blamed for some things.
4 - Anything that goes wrong is always my fault.
0 - No, they’re always pleasant to be around.
1 - Maybe a little in extreme events.
2 - They can if they get a little mad.
3 - Only when they’re alone with me.
4 - They can turn anything into an uncomfortable environment, especially with my friends.
0 - Never.
1 - Maybe once or twice.
2 - They have done this in the past.
3 - They can do this.
4 - Very regularly they act this way.
(This doesn’t include pre-existing conflicting plans eg. you have a date planned and your friends want to go to a party.)
0 - No they never do. They might even be friends with them.
1 - Not really. Maybe once or twice, but it was still up to me.
2 - Sometimes, if they have a reason.
3 - A couple of times.
4 - It can be expected, it usually happens.
0 - Never, they respect that I’m my own person.
1 - They are vocal about their opinion.
2 - Sometimes they can try in more extreme situations.
3 - They get mad if I disagree.
4 - Yes they regularly do.
0 - Never.
1 - They can get angry but never violent.
2 - Sometimes they can get a little more physical.
3 - In certain situations they can get violent (eg. if they get drunk)
4 - Yes
When you have completed the quiz, note the scores you have put down.
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If you mark down a for any question this could be a
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