Do you recognise the signs of an unhealthy relationship?
How to take this quiz: We don’t want to store any information about you, so get some note taking tools handy. This could be pen and paper or digital note taking tools. Note down a score for each question below. The more points you get, the more worrying and extreme the behaviour you have seen could be. Keep in mind that what might be healthy for one couple, could be completely unhealthy for another.
When you are ready, begin by answering the following questions:::
(eg. things like forcing them to order a certain dish in a restaurant, change their outfit, perform a sexual act they might not be comfortable with.)
0 - No, they never try to influence them.
1 - They help them expand upon themselves and develop.
2 - They usually give advice on what they’d do.
3 - They often get told what to do or how to act.
4 - They usually do what they are told to do. It is easier than arguing or trying to disagree even if it upsets them.
0 - No, they’re completely independent.
1 - They check in a couple times a day.
2 - They like them being there most of the time.
3 - Sometimes they need them to function.
4 - They need them to be there to function all the time.
0 - No, never.
1 - To protect them.
2 - I get the feeling they might.
3 - Yes they have sometimes.
4 - They regularly lie and bend the truth.
0 - No, never.
1 - They’ve said stuff in the past, but have moved on.
2 - Their partner sometimes get upset or mad if they are feeling a certain way.
3 - They act like they have to hide their emotions to avoid upsetting their partner.
4 - Yes, any emotion is turned into a weapon.
0 - No, never.
1 - They hint at it.
2 - Sometimes they won’t accept that they or others might be at fault.
3 - They can get blamed for some things.
4 - Anything that goes wrong is always their fault.
0 - No, they’re always pleasant to be around.
1 - Maybe a little in extreme events.
2 - They can if they get a little mad.
3 - Only when they’re alone with them.
4 - They can turn anything into an uncomfortable environment, especially with friends.
0 - Never.
1 - Maybe once or twice.
2 - They have done this in the past.
3 - They can do this.
4 - Very regularly they act this way.
(This doesn’t include pre-existing conflicting plans eg. they have a date planned and you want to go to a party.) 0 - No. They’re always down to hang out.
1 - Not really. Maybe once or twice, but they’re just lovebirds.
2 - Sometimes, if they have a reason.
3 - A couple of times. They’ve cancelled on me before.
4 - It can be expected, it usually happens. If we do hang out then they’re both there.
0 - Never, they respect that they’re their own person.
1 - They are vocal about their opinion.
2 - Sometimes can try in more extreme situations.
3 - They get mad if they disagree.
4 - Yes they regularly do.
0 - Never.
1 - They can get angry but never violent.
2 - Sometimes they can get a little more physical.
3 - In certain situations they can get violent (eg. if they get drunk)
4 - Yes.
When you have completed the quiz, note the scores you have put down.
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